I got nominated for a Liebster award! Cool! It comes from Life Sans God. I love her blog, there is great stuff on there about fitness and parenting as well. Check it out! So here’s how this works.
The Rules for the Liebster Award are as follows:
- The nominee must link back to the person who nominated them.
- The nominee must answer the eleven questions given to them by the person who nominated them.
- The nominee must choose eleven of their favorite bloggers who currently have less than 200 followers to nominate and provide them with eleven questions of their own to answer.
- You cannot nominate the person who nominated you.
Here are the questions I was given:
What’s your FAVORITE…
- Holiday- Love Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. I mean all of fall s really just eating and drinking and celebrating.
- Color- Yellow and green
- Food- Mexican food, chocolate, and ice cream… and sushi… and everything else.
- Vacation Spot- BEACH
- Celebrity- ummm… I don’t know if I have one. Maybe Noel Fielding right now. Or Tim Minchin. Or Stephen Fry. Maybe I have a lot of favorites.
- Movie Genre- I do love a good documentary. *nerd
- Book- Anything by Christopher Moore, Allie Brosh’s book, and Jenny the Bloggess.
- TV show- I love British TV right now, Top Gear, QI, Mighty Boosh, Luxury Comedy, and everything on Food Network
- Activity- Just being with my family. We have been separated a lot recently and just having a normal day with them is priceless to me right now.
- Article of Clothing- My new scarf with bicycles and my Mighty Boosh skull ring
- Beverage- bottle of wine with a crazy straw, please.
The blogs I chose challenge me and make for interesting and entertaining and wise reading. Sometimes I agree, sometimes I vehemently disagree. But check them out 🙂
My nominations in no particular order:
1. Enquiries on Atheism
2. Adventures in Randomness
3. Living the Kingdom
4. Brain Noodles
5. The BitterSweet End
6. Musings of a Muggle in Converse
7. Left Christianity
8. Atheist Think
9. Religion Suckz
10. R.L. Culpeper
11. Mentally Frilly
For those bloggers who want to accept, the rules are above. Thank you for what you do. And here are your questions:
1. Favorite quote
2. Favorite drink
3. Favorite vacation
4. Life changing book
5. Life changing movie
6. Life changing idea
7. Least favorite quote
8. Least favorite drink
9. Least favorite vacation
10. What word do you hate
11. What word do you love
I had lightbulb realization this morning. When talking with believers about my questions and doubts, I have a very specific list of things I want and don’t want in the conversation.
- I do not want you to try to save my soul. I do not want you to try and convince me of your viewpoint. Please stop. It sounds desperate, and irritating.
- I do want to hear why you believe what you believe. I am interested. I would not have asked otherwise.
- I want to know specifics about why you think what you think, and how you came to draw these conclusions. Give me something tangible, measurable, concrete.
- I do not want to hear catchphrases and churchy platitudes. They are not well thought out. They are not real. They are not your words. Use your words.
- I want you to listen when it’s my turn to talk. I don’t want to debate you. I am not Christopher Hitchens. I want to have a nice conversation where we share our ideas and remain friendly and courteous.
- I do not want to convince you that you are wrong. Really. I don’t.
- I do want you to acknowledge the times when faith does not make sense. I want you to honestly examine your faith and see the holes in it that I see. That doesn’t have to change your opinion, maybe you are still capable of faith at that point. But I am not. Can you just acknowledge that faith isn’t easy to have, it isn’t reasonable, and not believing is not a flaw in me?
That doesn’t seem like an unreasonable list.
I am frustrated. I feel like I should know my own mind better. This faith questioning gig is hard. I need to prioritize my mind space. Finish school, then doubt God’s existence. Also, why do I feel compelled to make an all out, one time only, no going back decision? I need to give myself permission to not know things, and to change my mind. That might help.
I was reading an article the other day, something about raising Christian children, and I strayed into the comments section. Always a dangerous place. One theme I noticed, and it rears it’s head on Christian articles all the time, is that Christians have this habit of saying, “Well, that person obviously does not believe in God like I do. Their faith is wrong.” Wait… what?
How in the world do you know that you are being Christian the “right way” and they are being Christian “wrong”? Even when I was certain of my belief in God, I was still not convinced that I was absolutely right. I never viewed my beliefs as infallible, or the ideas I held to be true as universal. Maybe that’s why questioning it all has come about. Maybe my doubt was deeply seeded and inevitable.
But I am still curious. How can someone look at their religious beliefs, their faith, for which there is no empirical evidence, and say, “Oh, I am right. And that person is obviously wrong.” Why? Admittedly, I much prefer my Christian friends who love gay people, women’s rights to reproductive health care, and have a strong sense of social justice; as opposed to Christians who hate gays, oppress women, and talk incessantly about “teaching a man to fish” while children starve and die. But it is those very people that I love who are saying that other Christians are serving the wrong god or being too literal or giving Christianity a bad name or whatever. I think this misses an important point.
Faith is supposed to change you, right? God or Jesus is supposed to change your heart and make you a better person. Unfortunately, in a world where we can personalize everything from a kitchen mixer to our bath towels, remember- people personalize their faith too. I did. I made up my mind about how I felt about the world and then twisted my faith to make it fit my view. Therefore, if I was more conservative, more male, and WAY less tolerant of everyone who was not those things, I could probably tailor my faith to that world view. In short- maybe that person is not doing Christianity wrong. Maybe it isn’t that their beliefs are kind of asshole-ish. Maybe they are just assholes. And I am not convinced that belief in God has ever made someone who is an asshole suddenly stop being an asshole.
*side note- I am not dissing all conservative males, I was just referring to a particularly loud and irritating segment of people who fall into that category.